Today I am feeling very sad..
I had made plans to go back to my college hometown of Boston, MA.
I had tried unsuccessfully for years to plan this trip and it never went off.
Fast forward to August 2007, when I ask my husband if he wants to go, he says yes and he gets us a house sitter.
I start trying to track down folks that I have let slip away and I find 2 very important people from back in the day.
I send numerous messages to them asking if we can arrange something so I can see them when I get there.
One of them gets back fairly quickly stating he can't meet me because he has plans already - ok that is fine, I am sad but I will get over it.
The other just keeps writing me and never mentions the trip, so I keep asking him what is going on, are we going to meet or not.?
Well today I FINALLY get an email from him and mind you this is a man I was very very close to years ago.
So I get this email and he is so cold and mean in his email that I actually started to cry.
He was asking why I cared after all these years and why did I have to see him and what kind of "agenda" did I have and that alot of time has passed etc. etc.
He then tells me rudely that I should have given him more notice - WTF, I gave him well over 2 months, I mean he isn't that popular I don't get why he can't spare one afternoon or 1 evening for dinner.
I just am so upset over this and I don't know how to reply or if I should at all.
I mean my husband has said before why try to dig up old friends who have gone away but a piece of me wants to try and reconnect before it is really to late - you know.
Any advice..??
I am open to suggestions....
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3 comments:
Sorry your so upset. I would explain you are married and just wanted to reconnect with some old friends. Maybe he, in his own mind, thought you were more than friends. Anyway, as my mother would tell me "it's better to have no company than bad company" and another one that helped me, "those who don't appreciate you don't deserve you"
I hope this helped. Have a good time anyway in Boston. IT's a fun town.
it's hard to know what is going on in peoples' heads but you know what? you made the effort to reach out and the ball was in their court... sometimes it's better to remember people the way they were and have those memories than to see them years later and be disappointed.
You two are both so wise and so kind - Jeannie is so lucky your in her life to guide her.
Thanks for your thoughts, and you are both right on..
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